Did he break up with me because he knows this girl is going to the same uni as him and he wants to start on a clean slate with her? I know I'm over him and ya-da ya-da.. If this girl is 'new' then fine..but how come my instinct is telling me there's something more? Oh, he's a liar too. So much for I don't like to talk on the phone/skype but he's fine skyping with his ex?
Guys are all the same. No exception.
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Hunny, my piece of advice to all women out there. Think of it this way, you're more precious to be fiddle around by some 'boy' and don't live in spite but put on a smile on that face because you're beyond what you want a guy to think of you. Do yourself a favour, get that university degree and let the ungrateful ones regret to have ever broken your heart... I'm speaking based on similar experiences from what I've read prior. Take cares.
There are many exceptions to guys, and many more reasons as to why a guy is fine skyping with his ex but not you.
Think of this logically.
Why is it that he's fine skyping with his ex, but not you?
Is it because you were horrible? too good? the most recent break up (compared to the ex)?
Or maybe you have left in him a very different presence?
He's lying? are you sure? or IF he is lying, why?
You realised that he skyped with his ex. Was it a one time thing? was it because his ex had a matter to discuss?
I do not attempt to help you think about the answers for the questions I have posed.
but do try to understand.
Guys are humans too, and humans are all uniquely different from each other.
But jumping to conclusions when you have a lack of evidence is completely not beneficial. There are just so many variables that you have a lack, or even no grasp on, to begin with.
But your friend, Christina, is partially right.
Do yourself a favour, get the uni degree, and face forward.
But I am not sure if your ex was actually "ungrateful".
Does being together with you = treasuring you, but breaking up with you and trying to keep a distance = being ungrateful?
Holding a mindset that "all the past guys are ungrateful, I know I am the best!" may be a good thing, but may also be a bad one.
Good, as in you'll be more confident. You'll be able to look away from your current troubles, and have your mind set on another goal.
Bad, as in you'll risk becoming too arrogant. The side effect of fueling yourself with confidence by stereotyping/becoming judgmental is that you'll change your perspective in life matters. Often in the more pessimistic way, though not always.
A common guy may ask you, "who are you to say that all guys are jerks? are you Mother Mary? are you sure it's not just the guys you met that are jerks? us guys can just stereotype about you girls in approximately the same way, ya know?"
Now that I have typed too much, I think I should summarise what message I want to bring to you.
If you are over him (truly over him), view the matter from a more objective platform. If you do not know a reasonable amount of stuff that is going on on both sides (which I doubt you do), try to sometimes defend him too, for eg. "he might just be more comfortable with her than me, since we just broke up" (which, I think, is pretty reasonable).
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